Mother’s Day can sometimes be a difficult time of year for women who are undergoing fertility treatment. With the vast amount of media attention and promotions on the build up to the day, it may sometimes make you feel lonely. But it is important you know that you are not alone!
There are lots of women that will be going through similar feelings to you, and there are lots of things you can do to stay positive this Mother’s Day. Here are a few suggestions you may wish to use to help you through.
Understanding your feelings
Honouring your feelings and being gentle with yourself is so important. For those who have experienced unsuccessful fertility treatments, you may find yourself feeling a sense of grief. Although you may not have physically lost anything or anyone, it is the feeling of lacking something that may affect you so greatly. Acknowledging these feelings can be a useful means of managing and finding new positivity within yourself.
So this Mother’s day, be gentle with yourself, recognise that there may be difficult times, but remember, your feelings are so important. You must do what’s right for you. So it’s ok to say no to events that you think may upset you, and just stick to the things that you know will make you smile.
Self-care is also very important to creating and maintaining positivity in your life. It helps significantly in nurturing both your body and mind. When going through fertility treatment, it is easy to forget to look after yourself. It’s essential that you don’t let your daily routine or consultations get in the way of taking time for yourself. Having a long hot bath, treating yourself to nutritious meals, going for a walk or just making time to relax can all help you feel positive about yourself and where you are in your life.
Connecting with others
There is no doubt that mothers deserve to be celebrated, but when you are suffering with infertility it is something that may leave you feeling slightly separate from the rest of the world. Connecting with others in a similar situation via online forums and support groups will help you to realise that you are not alone. Talking your feelings through with someone who understands may be something you find beneficial. Or you may find others have advice or stress management techniques that you hadn’t thought of.
So, this Mother’s Day, look after yourself. And if you are feeling lonely, don’t forget, there are lots of things you can do to support yourself and others who are also going through fertility treatment.
If you feel that you would benefit from talking to a professional, please contact our team here at Beacon CARE Fertility on 01293 2955. We will be more than happy to provide you with the support and guidance you need this Mother’s Day.